Chat to Charlie

Friends or Lovers?

Dear Charlie, There is a guy I have fancied for over a year and even with flirting from both sides nothing serious has happened. His friends say he is interested in me but he’s never taken it further. Am I going to have to succumb to the fact we are just meant to be friends?
Ettie, 19

Dear Ettie, Men aren’t as adept as us at mind reading. Why don’t you talk to him about it and find out where you stand? You have nothing to lose by confronting him and you may even gain something from it! Good luck and if it doesn’t work out, try to keep this guy as a friend, who is worth more than any flash-in-the-pan affair.
Charlie

Summer Loving

Dear Charlie, I started seeing a guy at home during the summer and I’m missing him so much. I thought being back at Uni with my mates would be a good distraction, but I’m always thinking about him. In an ideal situation, I’d be with him, but my degree is very important to me too. I’m in such a dilemma.
Bex, 20

Dear Bex, If it’s turning into something serious, it could be worth visiting each other to keep the love alive. If not, you’re simply going to have to get over it – throw yourself into your work and going out and you’ll soon forget your holiday romance!
Charlie

Housemate Hell

Dear Charlie, This year I have moved into a house with four friends but I’m finding things hard. Instead of getting closer to them, I feel more distant. We don’t arrange to do anything together anymore and so don’t have as much fun as before – I’m so bored! What should I do?
Alexis, 21

Dear Alexis, If there’s one housemate you feel closer to, perhaps you can bring it up with them? Maybe you should try and organise some things to do yourself, after all, actions speak louder than words. Also try spending more time with your other mates so you don’t feel so lonely.
Charlie